Recently, I have been made aware of similar situations where people are complaining about lack in their lives while blocking what they say they want to experience.
when I'm struggling the most is when I try harder to make space for more giving on my part. it might be a dollar might be a shoulder to lean on. takes me out of my focus on self.
Yes, it is usually something smaller and many times has nothing to do with money - although having this giving attitude loosens up the prosperity as well!
Thank you Krysta...your inner ding is spot on...at least for me. I have been a shoulder lately for at least 4 people in my close circle who are experiencing such blocks not only on a financial level but a spiritual and emotional level as well. In the case of the financial I was asked for my advice. I have learned the hard way not to tell people what they should do about their money, doctoring, prayer life etc I could only speak to this person from my own experience which has been pretty much what you just said so much more eloquently that I ever could . I did, however speak about how I had to learn about expectations and where they get me. Usually it's not pretty. In the case of giving, especially money, I never give it with a thought that it will ever come back even if the person says they will. If I know not getting it back fosters a resentment, it simply don't do it it I find another to give support that won't foster ill will.
I shared with another person who hates their old car and crappy apartment. I told her about when I was a struggling single parent raising two kids and barely rubbing two dimes together how I had a used Orange 77 Vega hatchback. People would poke fun at it but I remember feeling so grateful just to have wheels to take care of our needs. In my heart I knew that someday I would have a choice in a car that I could actually pick out rather than this hand-me-down car. I took care of that orange car like it was a Rolls-Royce. I kept it polished, spotlessly clean on the interior, and had my little container of touch up paint that I would detail every spring to keep it from rusting out. When things got better and more abundance came into my life that I could sell that car and pick out a nicer car and a color that I cherished, I actually cried the day I sold the it. But it was bittersweet because all that care was for not. At the time I thought it was for the very sweet, endearing young man who was buying his first car and was so happy to have the one that I had cared for so lovingly for years. I loved and cared for the next car which was a good used car but it was one that I picked out and I continued to love that one for another 10 years the same way I did the orange Vega, and then voila, I was able to buy my first brand new car. Now, being older and wiser, I cherish that orange Vega the most in my mind's snapshots. The orange Vega has become a metaphor for how I continue to keep energy channels open in order to endure unavoidable changes as I grow older and wiser. It's not always easy so thanks for the reminder AND your viewpoint.
I was taught to help others. I've tried to live by that. But I find I've often been taken advantage of by doing so. I have rarely received monetary repayment when I loaned someone money. When I help someone, like helping them move, I'm often given a "thank you" and that's it. At least my help was acknowledged so I leave it at that. Many people are struggling these days when it comes to money and I'm not immune to that situation. I like to think that some day I will receive some of what I've put out there but other than just staying afloat, I haven't. The only "help" I've received is advice on how to do something or where to go for a needed item. Yes, we are living a much simpler life now but it's still a struggle. We are even trying to find work that can be done at home for my partner's daughter. A bachelors degree in graphic design hasn't been much help for her so she has cashed in her 401k to help us out. This won't last forever so we are always looking for opportunities. I won't stop helping others but that's just me. At least I can help by offering my time.
Unfortunately, you are right. Many times the people we help or share with are not the people who give back to us. What I have found over the years is that if I keep giving what I can, when I can, and how I can - (whatever it might mean in a particular situation - usually it is not money) good flows back to me eventually. Many times it has taken years before something flowed my way and then it came about in the most unusual of ways. Being willing to give and share is actually a mindset; it is how we live our lives. Some people are just closed off, like the woman I mentioned in this article who wouldn't even appreciate the people she owed money to were willing to take $1.00 at a time! You sound like a great person and I think this will all start flowing back to you in the near future
Sometimes the simplest ideas are the hardest to comprehend. :-) Chuckles.
when I'm struggling the most is when I try harder to make space for more giving on my part. it might be a dollar might be a shoulder to lean on. takes me out of my focus on self.
Yes, it is usually something smaller and many times has nothing to do with money - although having this giving attitude loosens up the prosperity as well!
Thank you Krysta...your inner ding is spot on...at least for me. I have been a shoulder lately for at least 4 people in my close circle who are experiencing such blocks not only on a financial level but a spiritual and emotional level as well. In the case of the financial I was asked for my advice. I have learned the hard way not to tell people what they should do about their money, doctoring, prayer life etc I could only speak to this person from my own experience which has been pretty much what you just said so much more eloquently that I ever could . I did, however speak about how I had to learn about expectations and where they get me. Usually it's not pretty. In the case of giving, especially money, I never give it with a thought that it will ever come back even if the person says they will. If I know not getting it back fosters a resentment, it simply don't do it it I find another to give support that won't foster ill will.
I shared with another person who hates their old car and crappy apartment. I told her about when I was a struggling single parent raising two kids and barely rubbing two dimes together how I had a used Orange 77 Vega hatchback. People would poke fun at it but I remember feeling so grateful just to have wheels to take care of our needs. In my heart I knew that someday I would have a choice in a car that I could actually pick out rather than this hand-me-down car. I took care of that orange car like it was a Rolls-Royce. I kept it polished, spotlessly clean on the interior, and had my little container of touch up paint that I would detail every spring to keep it from rusting out. When things got better and more abundance came into my life that I could sell that car and pick out a nicer car and a color that I cherished, I actually cried the day I sold the it. But it was bittersweet because all that care was for not. At the time I thought it was for the very sweet, endearing young man who was buying his first car and was so happy to have the one that I had cared for so lovingly for years. I loved and cared for the next car which was a good used car but it was one that I picked out and I continued to love that one for another 10 years the same way I did the orange Vega, and then voila, I was able to buy my first brand new car. Now, being older and wiser, I cherish that orange Vega the most in my mind's snapshots. The orange Vega has become a metaphor for how I continue to keep energy channels open in order to endure unavoidable changes as I grow older and wiser. It's not always easy so thanks for the reminder AND your viewpoint.
Thanks for sharing your story and wisdom...there's a lot here! Blessings, Krysta
I was taught to help others. I've tried to live by that. But I find I've often been taken advantage of by doing so. I have rarely received monetary repayment when I loaned someone money. When I help someone, like helping them move, I'm often given a "thank you" and that's it. At least my help was acknowledged so I leave it at that. Many people are struggling these days when it comes to money and I'm not immune to that situation. I like to think that some day I will receive some of what I've put out there but other than just staying afloat, I haven't. The only "help" I've received is advice on how to do something or where to go for a needed item. Yes, we are living a much simpler life now but it's still a struggle. We are even trying to find work that can be done at home for my partner's daughter. A bachelors degree in graphic design hasn't been much help for her so she has cashed in her 401k to help us out. This won't last forever so we are always looking for opportunities. I won't stop helping others but that's just me. At least I can help by offering my time.
Good read and very thought provoking. Thank you.
Unfortunately, you are right. Many times the people we help or share with are not the people who give back to us. What I have found over the years is that if I keep giving what I can, when I can, and how I can - (whatever it might mean in a particular situation - usually it is not money) good flows back to me eventually. Many times it has taken years before something flowed my way and then it came about in the most unusual of ways. Being willing to give and share is actually a mindset; it is how we live our lives. Some people are just closed off, like the woman I mentioned in this article who wouldn't even appreciate the people she owed money to were willing to take $1.00 at a time! You sound like a great person and I think this will all start flowing back to you in the near future