What will your life be like when you get what you want now? When you find the love of your life, when you have the baby, when you own your own home, when you get your degree, when you land the perfect job or win the lottery, or…or…or….
But don't ignore the reality that people who have goals tend to survive in order to meet them. Leading writing groups for seniors showed me time after time that people kept on keeping on to continue coming to our meetings, to have certain birthdays, to see a grandchild get married, to finish painting the basement, etc. With friends and family, I always advise having at least one goal to work toward at all times. For myself, too, I love the process of working toward and celebrating a goal that's met and then determining the next one. It's not about being unhappy in the self. It's about keeping life force throbbing and entertaining.
I have an idea about this that involves "time" and creating...call it "manifesting". When we intentionally commit to something in present time and take action to make it exist we are already creating the future idea of the NEXT thing. We want a job: we create the clothes we need, the new car we want, the new house we want to live in, the "perfect intimate romantic partner" to put in the picture, the children, the extended family and of course, we assume we're entitled to "HAPPINESS" as a natural part of our creation, like an add-on.
Paradoxically, the things we want in present time actually exist in the past. Their future acquisition becomes a place holder for the next new shiny toy. "Happiness" slips through the cycle of past, present and future and we miss it entirely.
If we assume our past becomes the future, then the idea is to complete the past and manifest the future inside a type of "existensystem". THEN WHAT? The answer is to create "possibility".
I learned a long time ago to just be me and be happy with what I have. Sure, I wish for things. And sometimes I even get those things. But something usually happens and those things are taken from me. So, I end up back at the beginning of wishing for things. Even if it were money, which has happened, things happened that ended up taking that money. Vehicle breaks down, rent goes up, health issues, accidents and medical emergencies. When they all happen in a short time you just know that the short bit of wealth was just for those things and nothing more. Sure I have dreams and plans. It seems that somedays I'm moving in the right direction and other days a wall is dropped in my path and I have to make another path. Would I say I'm not meant to be successful in my goal or maybe I'm unluck? Perhaps. What I do know is I'm determined and don't give up.
But don't ignore the reality that people who have goals tend to survive in order to meet them. Leading writing groups for seniors showed me time after time that people kept on keeping on to continue coming to our meetings, to have certain birthdays, to see a grandchild get married, to finish painting the basement, etc. With friends and family, I always advise having at least one goal to work toward at all times. For myself, too, I love the process of working toward and celebrating a goal that's met and then determining the next one. It's not about being unhappy in the self. It's about keeping life force throbbing and entertaining.
I agree with you!
We usually agree on most things.
I have an idea about this that involves "time" and creating...call it "manifesting". When we intentionally commit to something in present time and take action to make it exist we are already creating the future idea of the NEXT thing. We want a job: we create the clothes we need, the new car we want, the new house we want to live in, the "perfect intimate romantic partner" to put in the picture, the children, the extended family and of course, we assume we're entitled to "HAPPINESS" as a natural part of our creation, like an add-on.
Paradoxically, the things we want in present time actually exist in the past. Their future acquisition becomes a place holder for the next new shiny toy. "Happiness" slips through the cycle of past, present and future and we miss it entirely.
If we assume our past becomes the future, then the idea is to complete the past and manifest the future inside a type of "existensystem". THEN WHAT? The answer is to create "possibility".
I learned a long time ago to just be me and be happy with what I have. Sure, I wish for things. And sometimes I even get those things. But something usually happens and those things are taken from me. So, I end up back at the beginning of wishing for things. Even if it were money, which has happened, things happened that ended up taking that money. Vehicle breaks down, rent goes up, health issues, accidents and medical emergencies. When they all happen in a short time you just know that the short bit of wealth was just for those things and nothing more. Sure I have dreams and plans. It seems that somedays I'm moving in the right direction and other days a wall is dropped in my path and I have to make another path. Would I say I'm not meant to be successful in my goal or maybe I'm unluck? Perhaps. What I do know is I'm determined and don't give up.
Your last sentence says it all!
Well said; and turns out to help us see the beauty, joy and blessing already present, even in times of sorrow. Thanks.
Thanks for reading!