And then what?
What will your life be like when you get what you want now? When you find the love of your life, when you have the baby, when you own your own home, when you get your degree, when you land the perfect job or win the lottery, or…or…or….
What will your life be like when you get what you want now? To answer this question, think back to the last time you realized a goal. What happened? You celebrated. You felt on top of the world. You felt competent, happy, alive.
What happened next?
Ah. Before too long, you wanted something else, didn’t you? You made a new goal. There was a new itch that had to be scratched. And off you went to the next adventure. This is the story of our lives on this planet. Like I tell my students and clients: if you wanted a planet of perfection, where everything stays the same, where there was no duality, you chose the wrong one. Better make a different choice next time!
Realize this. When you attain what you’re currently seeking, it won’t do what you think it will. If having a lot of money solved all problems, all rich people would be happy 100% of the time. They aren’t and many of them commit suicide because all that money couldn’t make them happy.
If being totally healthy would make you happy, then everyone who enjoys perfect health would never have ups and downs or challenges. Yet, they clearly do.
If being married to your perfect partner could make people happy, there would be no divorces.
In other words: make your goals, dream your dreams, but do not hitch your wagon of happiness to the attainment of any of them. Realize that all of these are fleeting things that will come and go. Who you are at your core is what remains all the time, no matter what’s going on out there in the world.
Find your happiness within yourself, your relationship with Spirit/God/Universe and then all those other things will show up in the way that is best for you. I think it was said best this way: “Seek first the Kingdom and then all these other things will be added.” I took several paragraphs to say what is said so well in this one sentence.
Living in grace and ease,
Krysta
But don't ignore the reality that people who have goals tend to survive in order to meet them. Leading writing groups for seniors showed me time after time that people kept on keeping on to continue coming to our meetings, to have certain birthdays, to see a grandchild get married, to finish painting the basement, etc. With friends and family, I always advise having at least one goal to work toward at all times. For myself, too, I love the process of working toward and celebrating a goal that's met and then determining the next one. It's not about being unhappy in the self. It's about keeping life force throbbing and entertaining.
I have an idea about this that involves "time" and creating...call it "manifesting". When we intentionally commit to something in present time and take action to make it exist we are already creating the future idea of the NEXT thing. We want a job: we create the clothes we need, the new car we want, the new house we want to live in, the "perfect intimate romantic partner" to put in the picture, the children, the extended family and of course, we assume we're entitled to "HAPPINESS" as a natural part of our creation, like an add-on.
Paradoxically, the things we want in present time actually exist in the past. Their future acquisition becomes a place holder for the next new shiny toy. "Happiness" slips through the cycle of past, present and future and we miss it entirely.
If we assume our past becomes the future, then the idea is to complete the past and manifest the future inside a type of "existensystem". THEN WHAT? The answer is to create "possibility".