Accept and allow This is something I have said to clients and myself many times because I truly believe it is at the heart of living a life of grace and ease. What do I mean by accept and allow?Living with Grace and Ease is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber.
I understand this for myself. But how do or does one get another to learn to let go? I know someone who has so much going for them but they just don't see it. She has many talents and is very beautiful. The camera loves her, so to speak. But she has a trauma from her childhood that she just can't deal with. She's become a very addictive person. Smoking, drinking and drugs were the norm for her until she finally went to rehab. She's since relapsed many times but it's the drinking that destroys her every time. She hasn't taken drugs again but she has relapsed by taking that first drink all over again. Once she starts drinking she can't stop. She's so bad she is taken to the ER. For now, she is sober. Has been for just over a year now. The longest I've known her to be sober is 2 years. She gets anxiety attacks too. They come on suddenly and are very bad. I've told her she needs to seek therapy as well as rehab but she hasn't bothered. She won't stay out of situations that are harmful and make it easy for her to drink. She insists on being with people that are drinking, drunk and on drugs. I'd like to help her but I know it's up to her. So, how can I get her to let go? I'm not taking this on as a personal job but just something I'd like see if I can help her with. If she can become a recovering addict then great. But if not, not much I can do. I know it's up to her.
I hear you. I get it. Thanks for the follow-up. I had a friend like that once and it didn't turn out well.
I understand this for myself. But how do or does one get another to learn to let go? I know someone who has so much going for them but they just don't see it. She has many talents and is very beautiful. The camera loves her, so to speak. But she has a trauma from her childhood that she just can't deal with. She's become a very addictive person. Smoking, drinking and drugs were the norm for her until she finally went to rehab. She's since relapsed many times but it's the drinking that destroys her every time. She hasn't taken drugs again but she has relapsed by taking that first drink all over again. Once she starts drinking she can't stop. She's so bad she is taken to the ER. For now, she is sober. Has been for just over a year now. The longest I've known her to be sober is 2 years. She gets anxiety attacks too. They come on suddenly and are very bad. I've told her she needs to seek therapy as well as rehab but she hasn't bothered. She won't stay out of situations that are harmful and make it easy for her to drink. She insists on being with people that are drinking, drunk and on drugs. I'd like to help her but I know it's up to her. So, how can I get her to let go? I'm not taking this on as a personal job but just something I'd like see if I can help her with. If she can become a recovering addict then great. But if not, not much I can do. I know it's up to her.