Accept and allow
Accept and allow
This is something I have said to clients and myself many times because I truly believe it is at the heart of living a life of grace and ease. What do I mean by accept and allow?
Accept means we look at whatever is going on in our lives, recognize it exists and embrace whatever it is. This does not mean we approve of it, like it, or want it to stay the same. It means we stop fighting the actuality of the situation.
Allow goes a step further. Allowing is about letting go of our expectations, demands, and desire for how we want things to turn out. It is living “let go and let God.” Some people panic at the idea of letting go of how things will happen, how they will work out. The more we practice this, however, the sooner we learn that the Universe usually has a much better way of handling things than we would ever come up with on our own. Do our best and release the rest!
Recently, I heard another way to explain the concept of allowing. Adamus Saint-Germain speaking through Geoffrey Hoppe (crimsoncircle.com) says allowing is being our true or higher selves. It means letting go of our learned, habitual ego-based behaviors and tuning in the soul part of ourselves.
When we let ourselves accept and allow whatever is going on in our lives, there’s a feeling of a deep sigh. Everything is all right and will play out for the highest and best of all concerned. There’s great peace when we’re able to realize we don’t have to control everything. We can live in grace and ease.
Living in grace and ease,
Krysta
I hear you. I get it. Thanks for the follow-up. I had a friend like that once and it didn't turn out well.
I understand this for myself. But how do or does one get another to learn to let go? I know someone who has so much going for them but they just don't see it. She has many talents and is very beautiful. The camera loves her, so to speak. But she has a trauma from her childhood that she just can't deal with. She's become a very addictive person. Smoking, drinking and drugs were the norm for her until she finally went to rehab. She's since relapsed many times but it's the drinking that destroys her every time. She hasn't taken drugs again but she has relapsed by taking that first drink all over again. Once she starts drinking she can't stop. She's so bad she is taken to the ER. For now, she is sober. Has been for just over a year now. The longest I've known her to be sober is 2 years. She gets anxiety attacks too. They come on suddenly and are very bad. I've told her she needs to seek therapy as well as rehab but she hasn't bothered. She won't stay out of situations that are harmful and make it easy for her to drink. She insists on being with people that are drinking, drunk and on drugs. I'd like to help her but I know it's up to her. So, how can I get her to let go? I'm not taking this on as a personal job but just something I'd like see if I can help her with. If she can become a recovering addict then great. But if not, not much I can do. I know it's up to her.