I've often been told I was the one in control of me. With so many things hitting a situation all at once it's hard to feel in control of yourself. So, I find the little things I can control in life. I'm not always successful and goodness knows I've failed more than once. But I try again and again to reach my goal. Somehow I manage to reach my goal but my landing is not at all graceful, LOL. As for walking into a room and feeling the energy in that room, yup, often I have to walk out before my agitation gets the better of me. I can "read" a room and find the issue so I will avoid that "issue" to do what I need to do and then leave. Then I'll go and sit in my truck and just "readjust" my focus so I can drive home. I started to learn how to do these things when I was in my early 20s so I've had lots of practice. But I'm not perfect and don't expect to be. Life is a classroom where one is always learning.
I thought about this question from different viewpoints. For example, I'm NOT in charge, I have no control over the amount of money I get from Social Security, but I AM IN CHARGE of what I spend the money on. Oh, really? I have no control over the cost of medical insurance, but I AM in charge of choosing whether or not to have a procedure. Oh, really? Do I think so? As my body gets older there are certain needs that have to be confronted. I'm NOT in control of what I have to choose from, but I AM in charge of the choice I ultimately make. You see what I'm getting at here? It's not always a "WHO'S" in charge (or in control), but it's a "WHAT'S" in control......of WHAT?
So I think the best answer I can give is to think of the question like it's a zen riddle: the student asks, "Who's in charge of you?" and the master points to the full moon. The student asks "Who's in charge of you?" and the master puts on a coat or he lays down and falls asleep, or he cleans his bowl after eating, or he pets his cat and the cat purrs. I think THOSE are the kind of answers that are authentic for me.
I've often been told I was the one in control of me. With so many things hitting a situation all at once it's hard to feel in control of yourself. So, I find the little things I can control in life. I'm not always successful and goodness knows I've failed more than once. But I try again and again to reach my goal. Somehow I manage to reach my goal but my landing is not at all graceful, LOL. As for walking into a room and feeling the energy in that room, yup, often I have to walk out before my agitation gets the better of me. I can "read" a room and find the issue so I will avoid that "issue" to do what I need to do and then leave. Then I'll go and sit in my truck and just "readjust" my focus so I can drive home. I started to learn how to do these things when I was in my early 20s so I've had lots of practice. But I'm not perfect and don't expect to be. Life is a classroom where one is always learning.
I thought about this question from different viewpoints. For example, I'm NOT in charge, I have no control over the amount of money I get from Social Security, but I AM IN CHARGE of what I spend the money on. Oh, really? I have no control over the cost of medical insurance, but I AM in charge of choosing whether or not to have a procedure. Oh, really? Do I think so? As my body gets older there are certain needs that have to be confronted. I'm NOT in control of what I have to choose from, but I AM in charge of the choice I ultimately make. You see what I'm getting at here? It's not always a "WHO'S" in charge (or in control), but it's a "WHAT'S" in control......of WHAT?
So I think the best answer I can give is to think of the question like it's a zen riddle: the student asks, "Who's in charge of you?" and the master points to the full moon. The student asks "Who's in charge of you?" and the master puts on a coat or he lays down and falls asleep, or he cleans his bowl after eating, or he pets his cat and the cat purrs. I think THOSE are the kind of answers that are authentic for me.