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Nov 9, 2023·edited Nov 9, 2023Liked by Krysta Gibson

My relationship tip is to acknowledge to ourselves that most of us live on the lower end of the scale of spiritual maturity, wisdom , enlightenment and "new world/new age" sensitivities and sensibilities. We're no where nearly as "clear" as we think we are, or want others to think we are. More likely than not it'll take an entire lifetime just to self-actualize two or three basic principles of love, self-love, authenticity, communication, affinity, experiencing reality shared with others and bonding with human beings with different points of view. There's going to be "failures". There's going to be successes, too. Fortunately, most of the failures were never expected to last. But remember: people we meet along the way are just like us: fearful, hopeful, willing, maybe lonely, sure of themselves, insecure or secure, curious, cynical or whatever. But people ARE reaching; and WE'RE reaching. Sometimes we touch and sometimes we don't. The point is we can give ourselves a break and give others a break. Relationships that are meant to last will last. If not, then with a little self-realization along the way we'll look back and it'll all be good.

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Thanks. This has a lot of wisdom and heart - thank you for sharing! Krysta

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Nov 8, 2023Liked by Krysta Gibson

You seem to have covered everything but I'm sure there's something out there that's missing, lol.

I would like add that discussing things with your partner is a great way to know about how that person feels. I've talked with my partner about making out a will or trust. Not a fun subject and it's still in process. We've talked about "being there" too. My call came when I woke up one morning to find a note saying they had checked themselves into a rehab facility. I knew it was coming but I had no idea how or when. Fast forward 5 years and things are all good. I had an extremely bad vehicle accident some years ago. I know it was a sudden thing but my partner was there for me. Nothing is better than knowing you have someone there to help you pull up your pants, LOL.

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I agree. Discussing things with our partner and getting to truly know them is so important. I have been with my partner for 32 years and only recently learned something about her I didn't know! It was nothing critical, but still you would think I would have heard the information before now! Thanks for commenting!

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Nov 8, 2023Liked by Krysta Gibson

I'm sure there are things we don't know or learn after a very long time. Usually, I find, these things are forgotten. Just some random odd thing will bring it forward.

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So very true.....

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Nov 8, 2023Liked by Krysta Gibson

My challenges as of late have been around friendships with women who are navigating growing older and wiser as well. I can get pretty hung up in the thoughts that come to mind after an interchange. What helps me most falls under the black and white thinking category. I draw upon Byron Katie's work and ask myself the four questions:

1) is it true?

2) can I absolutely know it's true?

3) how do I react to what is happening when I believe that thought?

4) who would I be without the thought?

Usually the first question gets me into a better space right away. But if I get to the end of it all and still feel squirrely I will grab the worksheet called Judge Your Neighbor and start writing.

Come to think of it, as sometimes have to ask myself is it really true and in relationship to places and things that I have knee jerk reactions to.

Have a blessed day everyone ❤️

PS... IT'S NOT TRUE THAT THIS IS HAPPENING ONLY IN MY RELATIONSHIP WITH WOMEN FRIENDS. IT'S ALSO HAPPENING WITH MY HUSBAND AS WE NAVIGATE THE WORLD OF AGING

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I'm glad you mentioned Byron Katie. I use those questions frequently. They are so helpful! Thanks for your commenting and for sharing.....

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Nov 8, 2023Liked by Krysta Gibson

So we'll said. We all need these reminders. Thank you, Krysta. <3

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Thanks, Jan!

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