Goodbye, 2025!

This final day of the year finds many of us thinking about the last twelve months and what has occurred during that time. The world stage certainly gave us an emotional workout as well as challenging some of our basic beliefs. Although this is true for me, I find most of my thoughts this year are more personal.

Several people close to me made the big transition. Friends and family moved on as did public figures. The one with the greatest impact was the passing of my 92-year-old sister.

Although we spoke by phone daily for the past ten years, we weren’t close in an emotional way. My sister was raised during a time where it wasn’t acceptable to share your deeper self with others. She left the family home when she was 18 and I was four; I grew up with her as an older sister I didn’t really know. But we did love one another, and we shared family history.

What happened when she passed on is I became a person without a family of origin. All the people I knew since birth have gone. Poof! That stage is empty. The cheese stands alone. Parents and siblings, aunts and uncles, all gone. In some ways, this is sad, yes. In another way, it is freeing.

One of the things I like to do in the early morning hours is paint and draw. Many times, I listen to a You Tube channel called The Louisiana Channel where different artists from various countries are featured every week. This morning, I listened to an 80-year-old Egyptian-Armenian artist Anna Boghiguian. She said, “If you don’t belong, you belong to yourself.” Like me, she has no family left. She went on, “When you have no family, you are free.”

She wasn’t being mean-spirited or discounting the importance of our families. We spend most of our lives defined by our family of origin. When we are the only ones left, we don’t have to be defined by our family system and are free. For me, I gained a lot of this freedom when I did therapy and healed a lot of old issues.

This is different because until now, there was always someone on the planet who I knew since birth. Now they are all gone. Do I miss them? Yes, of course I do, some more than others. I still talk to them on the level of spirit. That is quite different from having lunch with them or visiting on the phone. And I have my acquired in-law family who are wonderful. And I have you and my spiritual family. I am not without family in this larger sense.

2025 did, however, leave me without belonging to a birth family and in that way, I am free. I belong to myself. What a strange and interesting way to start the new year.

I predict 2026 is going to be wonderful in so many ways. Yes, it will be challenging, but also wonderful. I wish you the best one ever! See you next year!

Creating in joy, ease, and grace,

Krysta