Do you complain?

Here's an antidote.

Most of us can find something or someone to complain about pretty much 24/7. If it isn’t something like the cost of groceries, our spouse or child not doing something we want them to do, or some gosh-darn politician who won’t do what we think they should do (and, of course, we’re right), it’s some sort of ache or pain we’ve got.

Let me ask a question. How do you feel when you complain? Yes, I know letting off steam can feel good and sometimes this is exactly what we need to do. Usually, however, our complaining is of a more subtle, less explosive, and ongoing level. Here’s a recent example from my life.

When we moved to Arizona in October, we knew we would need to buy new appliances. We were leaving ours behind and the owner of the home we bought wanted to take most of theirs with them. What they left was less than desirable. We also decided to wait and buy some other furniture we knew we would need. Imagine our surprise when we discovered that the appliances were fairly easy to get right away; the furniture not so much.

We learned this was true of just about every furniture store, not just the one we decided to buy from. In October, 2021, we were told we could expect delivery January 8, 2022. Okay, we said, we know we’ll have to wait. In November, we were being told the new date was late January. Then they started saying January or February. Recently, the delivery date was moved to March. Mentally, I complained a lot. If only we had our bedroom dresser and side tables, we would be able to put away more of our clothes. If only we had the new bed frame, we could store things in the under-the-bed drawers. Last night, I realized that my mental complaining was not helping at all and I reframed what I was telling myself.

“Today, we’re one day closer to having our furniture delivered!” This is my new mantra when I find myself thinking about our furniture.

Complaining, whether mentally or verbally, does only one thing: it lowers our energy and makes it more difficult to manifest the life of peace and plenty we say we want. The antidote to complaining is this.

If you can do something to change the situation, do it as soon as possible. We contacted the store and even went to see them in person in order to find out if there was anything we could do to speed up delivery. There isn’t.

If you can’t do anything about the situation, make up some sort of sentence you can use that reframes your energy making it more positive. Not only will you feel better, but the change in your energy field will help improve the situation. Now that I am using my mantra instead of complaining, I fully expect to hear from the store any day saying our order has arrived earlier than expected and can they deliver it right away. I’ll let you know what happens.

When you find yourself complaining or whining about things that aren’t going your way, don’t complain, realign! Find the sentence that helps you feel positive, open, and accepting. Say this to yourself or others when the complaining wants to show up. Don’t complain: realign!

Living with grace and ease,

Krysta